Types of unavailable fathers and how the father figure impacts who we become and the choices we make.

Through my own studies and life experience over the years, I came to realise that we can be compulsive and addicted to any kind of relationship, even one with a friend or colleague. The most detrimental reality is that often we don’t or can’t recognise it and can live a life going through toxic relationship cycles until we die.

Narcissism is rife in the media today and is being Googled more often than ever. People are waking up to various narcissistic characters in their lives and I’m hearing more conversations about “how to remove toxic people from your life”, perhaps because of the rise in self-development and self-care.

This blog aims to shed a light on the fact that it’s not age that decides when we are adults. It’s not financial independence or not needing to ask for any help. What decides when we’re adults, and my mum has said this countless times in her writing, is when we begin taking responsibility for our choices and start standing in ourselves.

What happens when we move passed the ‘honeymoon phase’ of a relationship, often during the first year of living together. 

Parents will often come and tell me that they feel as though they’d raised their second child the same as the first, but then ask, “so why are they so different from one another?”.

How do you know whether Coaching or Counselling is better suited for you? What are the myths surrounding the two that you need to know about?

98% of the Earth’s population is not self-actualised, according to Abraham Maslow. They therefore, act out from a space of unconditional or ‘inauthentic love’ for themselves and others. I believe that, no matter how much self-empowerment work I put myself through, becoming a self-actualised or authentic human being is a never ending process.

Nowadays, we use words such as wholeness and holistic very often. You hear about holistic coaching, holistic counselling, holistic medicine… but what does holistic actually mean? And what does it mean to become whole? 

Happiness is being aware of our own gifts. To do so requires us to build awareness around our strengths and flaws, our light and our shadow. And once we've developed that kind of awareness, happiness is about making use of and sharing what we have discovered and built for ourselves with others so that they may learn and build happiness for themselves.

In our lives we come across and engage in various types of relationships: romantic, professional, familial, casual and many more. Relationships can be many things... but always fall under the categories of healthy or toxic. 

We can be true to ourselves and still do our best to act responsibly by choosing not to hurt others and ourselves by surrendering power to our vindictive side, which is a part of our humanness. We do this by nurturing and remaining faithful and connected to our light.